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Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle
June 9, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Author: E Brooks
If you have been in a high conflict custody battle for any length of time, you may have come to rely on your attorney to write your motions, file your paperwork, take the reins at hearings and deal with the other parent or their attorney. But when you head into evaluation, you are going to be on your own. Do you know what you are going to say? Do you know what evidence you want to present? Do you have a strategy?
This will be the most important phase of your custody battle. Why? Because when you complete this phase the evaluator will issue a report that will most likely be the foundation of your new custody agreement. Why is that? Because evaluators are trained professionals who specialize in this. Judges like adopting their reports more than they like making decisions based on your pleadings and 15 minutes with you.
So lets get to work on your strategy. First you will want to address who you are and why you are a great parent. You will want to present school records, immunization cards, cards and letters recognizing that you are an involved parent. This is your chance to shine so you must do blatant self promotion.
Second, you will want to show why the other parents accusations about you are unfounded, untrue, and blatant lies. Pull phone records, emails, text messages, anything you can that will show whatever they are claiming is not true.
Third, you will want to address the faults of the other parent. Be prepared to document those claims so that they will stand up to cross examination. Do not dwell on accusations about them. For instance if you believe they may be using illegal drugs but have no proof, you may make the statement that you are concerned but that you have no proof. Then let it go.
Be prepared to have an in-home visit or at the minimum to spending time with your child at the evaluators. Think about how you want that to look and practice if you need to but dont coach as it would be obvious.
Finally, you need to be able to make concrete suggestions about how to best handle the problems you face. Be positive about how the changes would help your child. Make suggestions that would help the other parent too. The more balanced the approach the more likely your ideas will be adopted.
Remember that when this report is published it is highly likely that it will be the basis for your new agreement so do yourself proud.
About the Author:
Ed Brooks knows firsthand how painful a High Conflict Child Custody battle can be. Ed has created a site where parents can get advice on how to handle all aspects of a high conflict Temporary Child Custody battle. If you want to learn more about handling Child Custody Evaluation issues you can find it here.
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